LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT
A discussion.
I was asked if I believed in it this week and I'd never really thought about it. But since then, all I've really thought about is my stance on this issue. Hard telling why. I'd gone a lifetime not really thinking about it and not really caring. I know God's timing is perfect so that might be believing in meant to be but I can't say yay or nay on love at first sight.
I still can't for sure. Because the cynic in me says that's a line. Males use it when meeting pretty females for the first time to make them think... I don't know really. I also can't tell you why guys use lines. Do they work? Eh, yes probably.
So... Love at first sight. My first thought was simply what I stated earlier. I've never thought much about it. On second thought I realized it HAD happened to me.
I knew from the moment I laid eyes on it at Courtesy it was meant to be in my garage. I had fallen in love. The lucky recipient? What would become MY VERY OWN, 2007 Jeep Compass. Red of course. It was the same feeling I had with my Red Saturn, and Blue Saturn, and Caviler... Etc, etc. At first glance, I knew they were meant to be mine.
I'm not being smart here either. There's a certain pride, and well love that I have for automobiles.
The other times I've experienced love at first sight? Well, I'm a mom so my kids? Actually no.
At first glance I became aware of the task at hand. I'm a very task oriented person. So I saw the responsibility to raise a good person. Did I love them, sure. But again. I was consumed by caring for them. Keeping them happy, and clean, and fed. Love grew.
The two situations I've just described are two different "loves." I may have fallen in love at first sight with my cars, and I still do love them, but I traded them. They're just things and I know that. (that being said, I love my Jeeps.....SO MUCH) I loved them immensely at first but, it faded I guess otherwise I couldn't have traded them.
With the love that grew, Megan and Bailey.
I love them. It wasn't "love at first sight," but it's a love that's grown. I love them both more now than the day they were born. I've gotten to know them, their little personalities, their likes and dislikes and I do things that they like just because they like them, not always because I like them.
As I sit here thinking about the comparison I just made, I guess I don't believe in "love at first sight." I guess for me, love is worth more if it's grown, cultivated, and invested into. Not something that just exists. Love is work and it takes time. I don't believe you can know in an instant.
But, can you? Now I've begun thinking about the first time I met important people in my life. I won't say it was "love at first sight," but there was an element of instantly being aware of....something.
The second time? Hold on, I'm counting backwards here.
The second time I instantly knew anything was the night I was introduced to someone who became a very good friend. In that instance I remember thinking, they'll be important. I just didn't know how. They were important, we became friends and still are. We've had our ups and downs, but I can say that little hunch at first glance was right.
Okay. Now the first time.
I walked into one of my classes and I just remember thinking, "Huh...I wouldn't mind if he asked me out on a date." I never did anything about it. If I remember correctly it was second semester of freshman year, so it was right after I met the first Joe and that preoccupied me for that entire semester. I guess I missed an opportunity. But then after high school we actually ended up going on a couple dates or so. He was someone when I look back I can say, "He was nice. I'm actually better for that." It just didn't work out which later I would realize was the story of my life. :)
Makes me think, maybe back then if I would've given "love at first sight" a chance, maybe things would've turned out differently. Because ultimately I married a guy that the first time I saw him I thought, "Wow, those are some awful pants.... And he's weird."
So......the jury's still out on whether or not I believe in love at first sight. Maybe for some people.
All I know is that I do believe in things that take time, they tend to last. You go about things slowly and take your time learning things about the other person. You INVEST and I like the idea of that. I like investing in other people.
But then again, I could be wrong. I have an appointment with a divorce attorney on Tuesday. I obviously know nothing.
That's life.
